9 ways to reclaim your sex life

9 ways to reclaim your sex life

Recession had taken its toll on people in general who were subsequently "having less sex" According to Dr. Ian Kerner, a New York City-based sex therapist, .

"Fifty million people are stuck in a sex rut. The economy inhibits a person''s libido because they feel stressed and depressed," Fox News quoted Kerner as saying.

Nine ways are provided by author of book "Love in the Time of Colic: The New Parent''s Guide to Getting It On Again".

9 Ways to Reclaim Your Sex Life:

1. Just go ahead with it: "It might sound silly, but just have more sex. Your mind has become habituated to not having sex, so it's hard to break out of it. You have to reconnect."

2. Connect with each other: "You can't just turn sex on when it's time to go to bed You need to build that sense of connection."

3. Stay positive: "Studies show that for couples to boost their sex life, they have to be positive. It's easy to go home and talk about mortgages and bills, but if it leads to a negative cycle of communication, figure out a positive of communication."

4. Prioritise your relationship: "Couples are spending more time on Facebook and blogs. The next thing you know it's 11:30 p.m. and it's too late for sex. There's no urgent need to check your BlackBerry -- your relationship has to be a priority."

5. Adopt and maintain a healthy lifestyle: "It''s easy to binge at the end of December with the holiday eating and drinking. Get healthy and remain healthy. It will increase your sex drive, and exercise will boost your self-esteem, which is crucial to enjoying sex."

6. Reveal fantasies: "In sex, you often do the same things, rely on the same moves. Share a fantasy. Or, if you feel your partner is lacking in attentiveness, instead of criticizing, express it in a sexy way."

7. Lend a helping hand: "A lot of women aren't interested in sex because they have other things on their minds like chores, dirty dishes, and men can't always appreciate that aspect. If men help and create an environment where women want to have sex, that's really important."

8. Be honest: "One of the benefits of being in a relationship is that sex isn't perfect -- guys are subject to their issues, women are subject to theirs. If in '08 you were saying something didn't matter, [maybe] it does in '09. Sex changes from year to year and '09 is a new year."

9. Create the right environment, "the love nest": "Put a little more energy into your surroundings. Create a surrounding that appeals to your senses."

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Bipasha Basu turned 32 on January 7, 2011. She was born on January 7 in New Delhi to a Bengali Hindu family.
she was winner of the Ford's Godrej Cinthol Supermodel contest in 1996. Then she was flown to New York by the Ford Company, where she had a successful modelling career at the age of 17.

In 2005 and 2007, UK magazine Eastern Eye named Basu the 'Sexiest Woman in Asia'.
she has proved that she is 'hot, sizzling, sexy' by going topless for the Maxim magazine cover page of January 2011 edition.

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I am a 26-year-old guy. Four months ago, I moved to this building as a paying guest. My neighbour is a 38-years-old divorcee with a seven year old son. Several times we would bump into each other at the elevator. Once I gave her a lift on my bike as she was late for work.

Then I began giving her lifts back home so she didn't have to wait for the bus. During the Diwali holidays, she and her son went to meet her parents in another city. She came back, her son stayed back. We went to a
movie, brought dinner and drinks back to her place and made out that night.

We would make out every night till  her son returned. Now we have sex at my place at night when her son is asleep and her maid takes care of him.

Her parents will be coming over next week and we plan to go on a holiday. This is the first time I will be staying with any woman this way. I want to surprise her and propose during the trip. But I am very nervous. We've been discreet; only the maid knows about our affair.
Name withheld

Dear Friend,
I suggest before popping the question, you ask her casually about what her plans are for the future, and if she has thought about settling down. That way you might be able to avoid disappointment. It is possible that this is only a physical thing for her. Not all divorcees with a child are looking to get hitched. Also four months is too soon to ask someone to get married.

I think you should wait a while. Since you've never been with another woman before, perhaps you are getting carried away. Normally I don't think age difference should be an issue with a couple in love but I want to ask you if you've thought this through. She is twelve years older than you.

That may not seem a lot now but when you are 38, she will be 50. Just enjoy her company and your time together for now. Wait for a few more months to see if you still feel the same way about her. Get to know her better. Right now, all you seem to have is sex together. That isn't enough to put marriage on the table.

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