Ajab affair with meri padosi. Should I pop the question?

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Ajab affair with meri padosi. Should I pop the question?

I am a 26-year-old guy. Four months ago, I moved to this building as a paying guest. My neighbour is a 38-years-old divorcee with a seven year old son. Several times we would bump into each other at the elevator. Once I gave her a lift on my bike as she was late for work.

Then I began giving her lifts back home so she didn't have to wait for the bus. During the Diwali holidays, she and her son went to meet her parents in another city. She came back, her son stayed back. We went to a
movie, brought dinner and drinks back to her place and made out that night.

We would make out every night till  her son returned. Now we have sex at my place at night when her son is asleep and her maid takes care of him.

Her parents will be coming over next week and we plan to go on a holiday. This is the first time I will be staying with any woman this way. I want to surprise her and propose during the trip. But I am very nervous. We've been discreet; only the maid knows about our affair.
Name withheld

Dear Friend,
I suggest before popping the question, you ask her casually about what her plans are for the future, and if she has thought about settling down. That way you might be able to avoid disappointment. It is possible that this is only a physical thing for her. Not all divorcees with a child are looking to get hitched. Also four months is too soon to ask someone to get married.

I think you should wait a while. Since you've never been with another woman before, perhaps you are getting carried away. Normally I don't think age difference should be an issue with a couple in love but I want to ask you if you've thought this through. She is twelve years older than you.

That may not seem a lot now but when you are 38, she will be 50. Just enjoy her company and your time together for now. Wait for a few more months to see if you still feel the same way about her. Get to know her better. Right now, all you seem to have is sex together. That isn't enough to put marriage on the table.